Dating 101 or How to Find a Man in Lisaland.....A Party of Two

I have to laugh....Dani and Dean really started something last week. All week my email and facebook messages have been full of people with their suggestions for me to get out and get going in the dating world. I have even had some rather harsh criticisms as to the fact that some think I am "scared" and all talk! To you I say......you are absolutely right! This is one of the scariest ventures that I have ever set forth on in my life. As I said last week....dating is a young persons game. The older you get....the harder it becomes. Especially if you have been out of the game for a very long time. I can honestly say.....I have not been out on a date in this millennium. That is really a scary thought.

I did however, after last weeks ideas....decide to get a little pro-active. I have actively been searching out some sort of a group of like minded people to attend. I am not sure that a widow/widowers group is right for me. I am truly afraid there might be too much sadness involved there and that is not the direction I want to go. I have though been looking into groups of parents with kids who are special needs. I am kind of alone in the world (at least my little world) where this is concerned. Even if there are no available bachelors just dying to date me there....I might find people who will help me not to feel so on my own where David is concerned.

I have also decided to give myself an interesting present for my birthday. I am going to the gun range and do some target practice. I don't own a gun and probably am not going to own a gun. I do however like to shoot. Back a long time ago.....I used to go shoot skeet with an old boyfriend of mine. He taught me how to shoot and after much bruising.....I finally got the hang of it. I am sure a hand gun is different, but it will be fun to learn and you just never know who I might meet there. Worst case scenario....I get my Annie Oakley on and learn some sweet shooting skills. Best case scenario.....well who knows? 

Many suggested to me bars. My mother always used to say....you will never meet the man of your dreams in a bar. I laughed long and hard because that is exactly where I met my husband. Fact is though.....the only bar I go to is RD's and I sincerely doubt that my Mr. Right has any frequent flyer miles there. So in all reality.....bars are probably not where I will be hanging out.

I had one reader give me a stern email reprimand. Ms. Cmom, While it appears in your blog that you do not want to end up alone, your actions seem to say different. It appears that you are more in like with the idea of being with someone than you are of actually finding someone. Do you think you are the only one in your shoes? Do you think that others have not had to saddle up and ride again after losing someone they loved either through death or divorce? Love will not come knocking at your door while you stand hiding behind the curtain. You must put your self out there and show the world that you are ready to live again. Then and only then will you find the one who is meant to be with you. So quit talking and get out there and do something. Haven't you heard the saying...."A little less talking and a little more action!" Now go get some action!

Hmmmm....action? How about we start with lunch and see where that leads? But I do understand what is being said and I do take the words to heart. Bottom line is....I am scared! But scared accomplishes nothing. Short of asking people out myself (I don't think I will ever be daring enough for that), I am ready to start putting some effort back into my dating life. I plan on starting back to the gym....and maybe I will attempt to go at a time when people my own age are working out.

Someone told me the other day that it was pretty obvious that I wasn't desperate to find a man....or I would be all over every man I saw. She then followed that up with.....that is a good thing. Men hate desperate. I laughed. No....I am just single......not desperate and for the most part, I am pretty self sufficient and not too terribly needy (although I could still use a good handy man!), but I do miss the companionship. I miss someone to cook for (or....ummm.....cook for me...whichever). I miss someone to talk to and to laugh with, but I guess I am not really desperate enough for any of it.....or I'd have done found me a man by now.  So here goes nothing. Not desperate, not really needy.....just ready to be a party of two....instead of always just one!

Well...hope your Tuesday is bright, cheerful and full of nothing but good things. Happy Tuesday everyone.